Anxiety and doubt are best friends, and anxiety does a pretty darn good job most of the time of holding the door open for doubt in our lives. Whether you suffer from anxiety or not, we’ve all had times in our lives where we second guess ourselves and miss out on something because of it.
This could look like not starting that business you always wanted to because you feel you’re ‘not ready’ yet. Or not applying for that job because you’re still building your resume. Maybe even little things like not posting on Facebook or walking up to the new person at school because you feel like you don’t know what to say yet.
I’m realizing now that there are a lot of times in my life where I’ve missed out. A small example would be declining to go to parties or hangouts throughout high school and college, because I felt that I hadn’t gotten over my social anxiety yet. I wanted to stay home and wait until I got my social anxiety under control and could ease into hanging out with new people. Maybe even watch people around me and see how they interact with one another or try to find things I could relate to them on.
But that never happened, I never ‘got my social anxiety under control’ or ‘eased into hanging out with new people’. And that’s because we will never be fully ready.
If we keep spending our time writing lists, planning the future, repeating things in our heads, and making up excuses—then we’re missing opportunities where we could’ve shown up in life. In fact, as we speak, it is July 19th and I am finally posting this blog….which I wrote on June 19th, but never posted because of this anxiety I am talking about.
This is something that I’ve been experiencing a lot recently because I’m introverted and find myself to be quite awkward and a perfectionist (I mean at least I’m being honest here) if I kept sketching and sketching and redesigning all of the clothes that I create—I would’ve never shown at Los Angeles or New York Fashion Week. In fact, I wouldn’t have a line to begin with. Just like how if I kept waiting to have the ‘perfect beach body’ to wear a bikini, I would never wear that bikini. Because our standards of what is ‘perfect’ are changing every two seconds, and we’re all chasing our tails to be ‘perfect’ before just showing up.
So this is my challenge to you: what is ONE thing you KNOW you’ve been procrastinating on? Something you know you should be doing or want to be doing but anxiety and doubt are keeping you back?
I’ll go first—I’ve wanted to start this blog since I was 14.
I’ve always loved the idea of writing, encouraging others, and taking photographs for a blog. And I let the idea spin around my head for 5 years before just taking the leap and showing up!
I know this blog won’t be perfect—because nothing ever can be. But I’m here and I’m ready to show up to the world! Are you?!
“When we live our lives independently, other people are poorer because they cannot benefit from our gifts: ‘what we have is unavailable’. Also, when we isolate ourselves, we are poorer because the benefits of others’ gifts are lost to us, so what we lack, we cannot get.”-C.S. Lewis